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Why Do Men Lie? – The Top 5 Reasons

Why Do Men Lie?Are you sick of your man telling lies all the time? He lies about “working late” when he really went out with the guys for a beer. He lies about what he really wants and how he really feels.

He lies so easily about trivial things that you start to wonder if he lies about bigger things as well.

It’s an age-old question that women all over the world ask: “why do men lie?” Men lie for a variety of reasons, and some are the very same reasons women lie. In actuality, we all lie at times, so don’t be too hard on your man just yet.

Let’s take a look at some of the most common reasons men lie to women so you can start to understand ways to create more open and honest communication in your relationship.

1. To Avoid Drama

Have you have ever gotten upset and reacted dramatically when you’re man told you the truth about how he felt or what he wanted from the relationship?

Would you be surprised to learn that now your man just sugarcoats things and tells you what you want to hear to avoid facing more drama?

Men quickly learn to adapt their behavior to keep the peace. If he can tell a little white lie to avoid drama and make his life easier, why would he ever want to tell you the truth?

If there’s no perceived upside to telling you the truth in a given situation, why would a man want to be honest? This is true of both men and women when it comes lying. We all just want to make things easier for ourselves.

2. To Avoid Getting Caught

Nobody wants to get caught doing something they know they shouldn’t and have to face the music. This is human nature and it’s true of both men and women.

However, men have a particular way of twisting things around and putting the blame on you. He’ll pull out all the excuses in the book and swear he just didn’t want to hurt your feelings. However, this is usually man-speak for he really didn’t want to deal with your anger after you busted him.

If you catch your man doing something shady, the reality is that he would not have done it in the first place if he didn’t want to hurt your feelings. He lied because he wanted to save his own skin, plain and simple.

3. To Get Out Of Doing Things

Men will lie to get out of doing undesirable tasks, such as household chores or errands. If you ask your man to pick up a few groceries on his way home from work, he might suddenly have to stay late.

Or maybe he conveniently forgets to do things, because he knows you’ll end up doing it yourself. Why do those pesky chores when he knows you’ll end up doing them for him?

Men don’t like any sort of pressure to do things they don’t want to do. The more pressure you put on them, the more they accuse you of nagging.

It is wise to choose your battles and bring up those pesky tasks on the honey do list at a time when your man is relaxed and feeling stress-free.


4. Past Conditioning From Old Girlfriends

Sometimes men have had negative experiences with their exes and have been conditioned to lie to avoid drama.

For example, if a man always got flack from his ex-girlfriend for spending too much time with the guys, he might have become accustomed to lying about it.

So now, he might tell you he’s staying late at the office when he’s really going out for happy hour with his friends.

In this case, he’s lying because the woman that came before you made his life difficult every time he told the truth about where he was.

5. He’s Insecure

Sometimes men lie simply because they are insecure about the truth. They want to impress you so they put up a front. They think if you knew the truth, you would no longer be interested in them.

Men who are insecure might lie about their age or their jobs. They might put up ten-year-old pictures on their online profiles back when they had hair and were fifteen pounds thinner.

It’s natural for everyone to experience some insecurity, but lying about yourself is not the best way to build a relationship. An insecure man who lies about trivial things is much more likely to lie about more important things.

How To Have More Open And Honest Communication In Your Relationship

Now that we’ve looked at some of the most common reasons men lie to women, here is how to get your man to start being more truthful.

The best way to encourage a man to be honest is to make him feel safe to do so. It’s one thing to say you won’t get mad or create drama, but do your actions live up to your promises?

From now on, make an effort to stay calm and express your feelings in a constructive way the next time you get upset by something your man says. Don’t make his life miserable just for being honest about something.

Once your man knows you can handle honesty and not bring the drama or punish him for it, he’s going to start opening up and be more truthful with you.

Please leave a comment below to share your personal experiences or let us know why you think men lie.


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  1. My husband and I go through ups and downs all the time. I get so aggravated when he lies over stupid crap,not saying that the more serious stuff doesn’t make me mad. We have been married for 19 yrs and our son which will be turning 20 in a few months does not know how to get a job and keep it. So anyways I told my husband that he lives rent and bills free since he lives with us and that he needs to help around the house but my husband tells me it’s my job. My husband is a big enabler when it comes to our son, I refuse to give him money or buy him cigarettes but my husband does but he does it behind my back then when I call him out on it he lies and lies and then some more. I just get so fed up with it and then when we argue because he does and lies about it he turns the blame on me.We just went away for the weekend and he wanted me to post something on his fb which was a total lie and I told him no and that one lie turns into another and another but he posted it anyways. Well we came home early and then basically had to stay home or visit friends of ours that don’t have a pc because of the lie. He then told me he could make something up about why we came home and I had to remind him that if he had not lied to begin with he wouldn’t have to make something up. I’m not saying I’m a perfect person because I have lied in the past but after a situation with another man I promised myself I would never lie. That was 4 yrs ago. Before anyone calls me a cheater or stands up for my husband I must tell you that he cheated on me 2 times that I know of so I wanted to get revenge on him. He lies and tells me this girl he worked with that he had an affair with was only one time but she tried to get him fired so no I don’t believe him. I know no one is perfect but there comes a time when it’s best to not lie to the ones you love.

  2. I have been with someone for 3 yrs. Last year we had to stay with my family.. first dating sites then partying all night and leaving me home not knowing anything. We split for a while then got back together.. now I’m 8 months pregnant and he’s still on dating sites and even lied about a girl he works with.
    I love him but I don’t know what to do anymore.. should I work through it or let it go? I’m getting the blame and being told I’m ugly just for him to feel better about himself.

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