If you’ve ever been cheated on, the first thought that probably came to your mind was WHY? Why did he do this to me?
Many are quick to blame biology. You’ve probably heard this excuse a million times before.
Men are biologically programmed to spread their seeds to keep the population growing. The problem is that it’s been thousands of years since the survival of the human species was actually a real concern.
Men have evolved since then and are indeed capable of monogamy. There are plenty of men out there who stay faithful to their women.
So why do some men cheat? There are of course many different reasons why men might cheat. It all depends on the individual guy and the relationship, because every situation is different.
Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:
It’s not that often that a gorgeous woman offers herself up to a guy on a silver platter. When this rare opportunity arises, it can be difficult for a guy to turn it down.
It really comes down to a lack of willpower. Even the most loyal guy could be weak enough to cheat when given the opportunity
Some men simply get tired of having sex with the same woman all the time. They crave variety and cheat even when they are happy in their relationships.
This is also why men don’t always cheat with women who are any more attractive than their partners. It’s just that they are new, different, and exciting.
When you’re in a relationship, you tend to fall into routines because you get comfortable. Some guys start to find the routines of a relationship monotonous and dull.
For guys who are stuck in a tedious relationship, having an affair adds some excitement back into their lives. Although cheating is obviously wrong, it certainly isn’t dull.
There’s the thrill of chasing the other woman, the fear of getting caught, and the excitement of having forbidden sex.
Instead of finding ways to bring life back to their relationships, they find it more exciting to look elsewhere.
4. Lack Of Sex
Some men cheat when they aren’t sexually fulfilled in the relationship. Whether their partners have a low sex drive or just aren’t interested anymore, they aren’t getting enough sex at home.
Sex isn’t necessarily the most important thing in a relationship, but it is important nonetheless. If a guy is happy in the relationship but just isn’t getting enough sex, he might consider cheating as a good option.
5. Lack Of Emotional Connection
A lack of emotional connection is more often to blame for cheating than sexual dissatisfaction. Although men have difficult expressing it, they are looking for an emotional connection too.
When a man feels disconnected from his partner, he might cheat if he feels a closer connection to another woman.
Maintaining an emotional connection is one of the best ways to prevent a partner from cheating. One way to do this is to show your appreciation. Men aren’t always comfortable asking for a pat on the back, but they want to feel appreciated.
Sometimes a man cheats because it boosts his ego. He might feel unattractive and wants to know he’s still got it.
For most men, some innocent flirting with an attractive woman is enough validation. However, for an insecure guy with low self-esteem, he might go further and end up cheating to get the validation he needs.
7. Unhappy Relationship
If a guy is unhappy in a relationship, he might end up cheating instead of just breaking things off. Maybe he has fallen out of love or is just sick of arguing all the time.
Whatever the reason, sometimes men become unhappy in the relationship but just don’t know how to get out. Maybe he’s sticking around for the kids or he feels like he has to stay for financial reasons.
If he feels stuck in the relationship and isn’t happy, he might go looking for a woman who makes him feel happier.
8. She Let Herself Go
Many people tend to get too comfortable in long-term relationships and they let themselves go. They are no longer concerned with being attractive to their partners.
Women might gain a ton of weight or start dressing like slob. When a woman stops caring about being attractive to her partner, he might start to feel like she’s no longer the woman she was when he met her.
If he’s comfortable in the relationship but just isn’t attracted to her anymore, he might start chasing other women he’s more attracted to.
If a guy suspects or finds out that a woman cheated on him, he might cheat on her to even the score.
Yes, it’s extremely immature, but in the heat of the moment, it might seem like a good way for him to feel better.
Of course, cheating to get back at someone is only going to make things worse. However, the relationship clearly had problems already for her to cheat in the first place.
10. He Knew He Could Get Away With It
If a guy has cheated in the past and was forgiven, he might end up doing it again because he knows he’ll get away with it.
As the saying goes, once a cheater always a cheater. Of course this isn’t always true, but some guys just won’t change their cheating ways when they know their wives or girlfriends won’t leave them.
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