Although your man is speaking English, sometimes it seems like he is speaking a foreign language. One that sounds a lot like English but has subtle nuances that leave you scratching your head.
Let’s call this secret guy language “manspeak.” Men don’t always say what they mean and sometimes they say what they mean, but women misinterpret it. All in all, this can make communication very difficult.
This article will help you crack the code to unlock the hidden meaning of some of the most common “manspeak” phrases.
What he says: I’m not interested in anything serious.
What he means: I just want to have sex with you.
When a guy says he’s not interested in anything serious, he’s really just looking to have fun and hook up. In this case, he’s trying to be honest and say what he means. But if he really just said what he meant he’d tell you he’s just interested in sex.
What he says: I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
What he means: I’m not interested in dating you.
If a guy says he doesn’t want to date you because he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship, then he’s just being polite. This is the nicest way he knows to tell you that he’s not interested in you romantically.
What he says: We should hang out sometime.
What he means: I’m too chicken to really ask you out.
When a guy suggests hanging out, he’s actually trying to gauge your interest. He’s too chicken to ask you out on a real date and face the possibility of rejection. It’s just a safer way to ask you out and give you the chance to back down without embarrassing him.
What he says: I’ll call you later.
What he means: I’ll call when I have time or when I remember.
Most women have a very different concept than men of what “later” means. For women, some specific window of time defines “later.” But for men, “later” just means any time after now. When a guy says he’ll call you later, don’t expect to get a call within twenty-four hours, or even in the next few days. A guy will call you when he gets the time or even just when he remembers.
What he says: I’ve been busy.
What he means: I’m not interested.
If a guy is truly interested in you, nothing will stop him. Even if he’s busy, he’ll make time for you. So if a guy is giving you excuses and claiming you haven’t seen him because he’s been busy, he’s really just not interested.
What he says: It’s not you, it’s me.
What he means: It’s really you.
If he a guy gives you this classic line, you can be sure he’s really not interested in you. He’s trying to let you down gently because he can’t handle hurting your feelings, or even worse making you cry.
What he says: I’m not ready for a relationship.
What he means: I’m not ready for a relationship with you.
Have you ever been dumped because the guy said he wasn’t ready for a relationship? Then he starts dating another woman and before you know it they are engaged. What’s the deal? When a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship, he actually means he’s not ready for a relationship with you. If another woman comes along that suits him perfectly, he’s willing to commit.
What he says: I’m ready for a serious relationship.
What he means: I’m assessing whether you are the one for me.
When a man tells a woman he’s begun dating that he’s ready for a relationship, he doesn’t necessarily mean with her. Most women assume this, but what he really means is that he is ready to be in a relationship and he’s dating you to see if you are the right woman for him.
What he says: Can we talk about this later?
What he means: I don’t want to talk about this… ever!
If your man says he wants to talk about something later, he definitely does not want to talk about it at that moment. But make no mistakes, he doesn’t want to talk about it later either. In fact, he just doesn’t want to talk about it ever, period.
What he says: I’m sorry.
What he means: I want to stop arguing and have make-up sex.
If you’ve been arguing about something and your man says he’s sorry, he’s probably just sick of arguing and would much rather fast forward to the part where you have hot make-up sex.