What A Man Says And What He Really Means

Understanding Men - Translating Man SpeakAlthough your man is speaking English, sometimes it seems like he is speaking a foreign language. One that sounds a lot like English but has subtle nuances that leave you scratching your head.

Let’s call this secret guy language “manspeak.” Men don’t always say what they mean and sometimes they say what they mean, but women misinterpret it. All in all, this can make communication very difficult.

This article will help you crack the code to unlock the hidden meaning of some of the most common “manspeak” phrases.

What A Man Says And What He Really Means

What he says: I’m not interested in anything serious.
What he means: I just want to have sex with you.

When a guy says he’s not interested in anything serious, he’s really just looking to have fun and hook up. In this case, he’s trying to be honest and say what he means. But if he really just said what he meant he’d tell you he’s just interested in sex.

What he says: I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
What he means: I’m not interested in dating you.

If a guy says he doesn’t want to date you because he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship, then he’s just being polite. This is the nicest way he knows to tell you that he’s not interested in you romantically.

What he says: We should hang out sometime.
What he means: I’m too chicken to really ask you out.

When a guy suggests hanging out, he’s actually trying to gauge your interest. He’s too chicken to ask you out on a real date and face the possibility of rejection. It’s just a safer way to ask you out and give you the chance to back down without embarrassing him.

What he says: I’ll call you later.
What he means: I’ll call when I have time or when I remember.

Most women have a very different concept than men of what “later” means. For women, some specific window of time defines “later.” But for men, “later” just means any time after now. When a guy says he’ll call you later, don’t expect to get a call within twenty-four hours, or even in the next few days. A guy will call you when he gets the time or even just when he remembers.

What he says: I’ve been busy.
What he means: I’m not interested.

If a guy is truly interested in you, nothing will stop him. Even if he’s busy, he’ll make time for you. So if a guy is giving you excuses and claiming you haven’t seen him because he’s been busy, he’s really just not interested.

What he says: It’s not you, it’s me.
What he means: It’s really you.

If he a guy gives you this classic line, you can be sure he’s really not interested in you. He’s trying to let you down gently because he can’t handle hurting your feelings, or even worse making you cry.

What he says: I’m not ready for a relationship.
What he means: I’m not ready for a relationship with you.

Have you ever been dumped because the guy said he wasn’t ready for a relationship? Then he starts dating another woman and before you know it they are engaged. What’s the deal? When a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship, he actually means he’s not ready for a relationship with you. If another woman comes along that suits him perfectly, he’s willing to commit.

What he says: I’m ready for a serious relationship.
What he means: I’m assessing whether you are the one for me.

When a man tells a woman he’s begun dating that he’s ready for a relationship, he doesn’t necessarily mean with her. Most women assume this, but what he really means is that he is ready to be in a relationship and he’s dating you to see if you are the right woman for him.

What he says: Can we talk about this later?
What he means: I don’t want to talk about this… ever!

If your man says he wants to talk about something later, he definitely does not want to talk about it at that moment. But make no mistakes, he doesn’t want to talk about it later either. In fact, he just doesn’t want to talk about it ever, period.

What he says: I’m sorry.
What he means: I want to stop arguing and have make-up sex.

If you’ve been arguing about something and your man says he’s sorry, he’s probably just sick of arguing and would much rather fast forward to the part where you have hot make-up sex.

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  1. laura march says

    my fiance said “shut up, stop it, your doing my head in, if i don’t answer your always like this”. What does it mean

  2. I need this deciphered. 2 x’s the guy I’ve been seeing has told his older male friend that he really wishes he could make it work with Y****E (which is me). It spins my head around because he’s the one who kept saying he was serious about putting an end to the loneliness, finding a relationship. But I know he doesn’t want an relationship with me…yet some of these comments he makes…he wishes he could make it work with me….that suggests he wants to be with me as more than friends…but he’s not making the move to ‘trying’ a relationship with me. What say you on this ‘manspeak’.

  3. Cherae evans says

    Well my husband is a perfectionist so if do anything wrong he is disappointed an fusing at me making me feel very horrible it kinda does something self esteem…. Also he always tells me he loves me but then when he gets upset he yells he will leave me so im really confused sometimes he makes me feel unappreciated an not loved at all

    • I’m no expert in relationships but it seems you’re married to a manipulator. Be watchful that the manipulation doesn’t escalate into something verbal violence/emotional abuse or even worse, physical violence.

  4. What he means when he say ‘we can be a power pack’?

  5. I have this crush and when he said that he would never go out with me I don’t know if that is what he really meant it not? What do I do?

  6. Hello there,
    Could you tell me what does it actually mean when a guy says to you if you want to or like to as to coming over?

  7. Good one. I agree to this article. And trust me it’s true.

  8. What does it mean when a man says he loves you but he’s involved and has a live in

  9. I think now that I am older .. that some men will say something that sounds off the subject to just get off the subject. My x would say Iam Perfect… which now after many long years of reflection without him, that he never thought he was perfect.. but it worked to change any ownership of the relationship and just to turn the blame on me. Passive aggressiveness can be in all of us.. but sometimes it is very frustrating when used with a simple arrogant saying. Sometimes People, men and women do not know how to talk honestly to one another.. And that can surely send such mixed signals to us all.. If a person is not willing to try out of love for you, you cant change the person. Go on with your life and life it the best you can without that person. You will be happy you did. Susan

  10. I don’t realy believe what u said about,when a guy says he wouldn’t wanna talk now bt later,I askd my bf a question and he said he ddnt wanna talk then,later in d morning the next day,he brought up that same topic and was ready to answer my question.so what do we have to say about that?

  11. Michael (UK) says

    Have you heard the one about: The guy who found an old lamp and as he was rubbing it clean, a massive genie popped out, saying “Thank God! I’ve been locked away in that lamp for ages. I will grant you one wish!”

    The guy thinks for a while and says, “Well, I’ve always wanted to visit the U.S.A. but I’m afraid to fly or go by boat, could you build me a bridge and I’ll drive over?”

    The genie shook his head answering, “I’m afraid that would be a huge task! The ocean is very deep and you’d need an awful lot of lights on it, Is there another wish you could choose? So the guy says, “Well, I’ve always wanted to understand women?… The genie sighed a deep sigh; O.K. How many lights do you want on this bridge?”

    If you’re a woman reading this, you can simply reverse the gender! Or, you could give us men the explanation? 🙂

  12. WOW what a cynical article. As if a man can’t be genuinely sorry or actually busy.

  13. What does it mean when a man says it’s all about the lady?

  14. Fatima Mohammed says

    Actually we woman have the problem, from the beginning a woman will believe what a man says to her without really finding out whether the man is really sincere or not.

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