I spent years being frustrated in relationships because I did not understand men on a fundamental level.
I came across Michael Fiore’s Secret Survey Program at a time when I was feeling a desperate need to get inside men’s heads so I could just understand what they were thinking.
I wanted to be the kind of woman who truly understood men and thrived in relationships.
While going through the lessons, I had a lot of “aha moments.” Things started clicking and I was able to identify a lot of the mistakes I had been making in past relationships.
I want to share with you a few of the mistakes I had been making with men and how the Secret Survey Program helped me finally understand what I was doing wrong.
1. Trying To Communicate With A Man Like A Woman
Communication was a problem in most of my relationships. I never seemed to be on the same wavelength as any of the guys I was dating. Trying to get guys to open up and talk about how they felt was a constant source of frustration for me.
Lesson 1 introduced me to the concept of “projective empathy.” What this means basically is that we assume everyone else thinks and reacts the same way we do.
So how does this apply to my communication woes with men? I think like a woman, and I was assuming that men did too, just because that’s all I knew. I had never experienced what it’s like inside a man’s head, so how would I know that it’s a whole different world in there?
The big “aha moment” for me was that I needed to stop expecting guys to speak my language. The truth is that guys have their own way of communicating that’s completely different from the way women communicate. And that’s ok!
2. Not Knowing How To Take A Compliment
I never realized how much damage can be done by not taking a compliment. Ever since I can remember, compliments have made me uncomfortable. I would always respond by deflecting it in some way.
If a friend said my hair looked good, I’d naturally respond with something like, “Really? I didn’t even do anything to it, it’s so frizzy!”
In lesson 3, I had a huge revelation as to why that is seriously messed up! Not taking a compliment is the same thing as telling that person they were wrong for whatever it was they complimented you on.
In relationships, rejecting a compliment is one way of emotionally castrating a man. You’ll find out just what the means when you read lesson 3, which is titled, “Why Doesn’t He Compliment Me Anymore?”
The bottom line is that when someone compliments you, it’s not really about whether you believe it to be true. It’s about how that person perceives you, so honor their opinion but just gracefully saying thank you!
3. Feeling Rejected When He’s Attracted To Other Women
I was out walking in a park with a guy I was dating and some of our friends. There was a woman who was posing for pictures, jumping up in the air and just making a spectacle of herself. She was wearing a really tight dress and was really dolled up (she looked like a Barbie).
She looked really out of place and the women in our group all looked at each other and kind of rolled our eyes. We were just joking around. But the guy I was seeing kind of scolded us for judging her and he said, “Looking like that, she can do anything she wants.”
At that moment, I felt really rejected. I automatically thought that if he was attracted to someone like her, he must not be that attracted to me.
Lesson 5 covers why men look at other women, and how it really has nothing to do with you. After reading this lesson, I could look back and see that just because my guy was attracted to another woman didn’t really have any bearing on how he felt about me.
Lesson 4 also covers insecurities women have in relationships and how we tend to make assumptions and think everything is about us when it really isn’t. Just because a guy says another girl is cute doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you.
I’m not sure why I even jumped to that conclusion in the first place, but these lessons really opened my eyes.
What Can You Expect From The Secret Survey Program?
There are 8 main lessons, spread out over 4 weeks, that are delivered in text, audio, and video format.
There are exercises to complete after each lesson that help you integrate the information into your life in a practical way.
The lessons get straight to the point and don’t waste any time getting to the good stuff.
Here’s what you learn in each lesson:
Lesson 1: Men Are Like Dogs (And You’re A Bad Owner)
Lesson 2: Why Men Lie To Women
Lesson 3: Why Doesn’t He Compliment Me Anymore?
Lesson 4: Does He Really Love Me?
Lesson 5: Why Does He Look At Other Women?
Lesson 6: Why Men Cheat (And How To Cheat-Proof Your Relationship)
Lesson 7: Reflected Glory (What Your Appearance Means To Him)
Lesson 8: What Men Want Sexually
There are also several bonuses, including the actual secret survey results, which make for quite an interesting read.
Michael Fiore polled thousands of men and asked, “What is the number one thing you want your wife or girlfriend to know but would never tell her?”
The answers are pretty eye-opening and allow you to see directly into the minds of men.
If you have an open mind and you truly want to understand men, this is a great place to start. I had some pretty big takeaways that helped me shift my thinking about men and take control of my relationships.
The best thing about Michael Fiore’s training is that he offers a 60-day 100% money back guarantee. No questions asked, if you don’t like it, you can get a refund.