Forget all the bad advice you’ve ever been told, and keep reading to find out the 7 things that actually work to make a man fall in love with you.
Certain aspects of falling in love cannot be explained. Sometimes there’s just a spark and that indescribable chemistry that has you feeling love drunk.
However, even where there’s chemistry, a relationship can still go burning down in flames. Some things women do will sabotage a relationship and other things will make it more likely for a man to fall in love.
Here is a list of 7 things you can do to make him fall in love with you:
1. Be Emotionally Independent
Being emotionally independent means that you take responsibility for your own happiness. That means that you don’t depend on a guy to make you happy.
Emotional independence is the opposite of neediness, and nothing will kill a relationship faster than neediness.
Men don’t fall in love with needy women. They fall in love with women who are living happy, fulfilled lives, all on their own.
2. Stand Up For Yourself
Don’t let a guy walk all over you. You do not have to put up with any bad behavior. If he treats you in any way that’s not okay with you, let him know.
If a guy stood you up and gave you some lame excuse, what would you do? Would you go out of your way to let him know it’s okay and clear your schedule to meet up another time? Do you see what’s wrong with that?
If a guy knows he can get away with anything he wants and you’ll still be waiting around for him, he’s not going to value you. He’ll take advantage of you, but he’s not going to fall in love with you.
3. Be The Prize
Men value things they have to earn. Be confident and see yourself as the prize that your man has to work hard for to win.
Being the prize is all about inner confidence and knowing that you are worthy of being loved, adored, and worshipped.
If you feel unworthy and are constantly trying to impress a guy and win him over, he’s going to sense that you don’t value yourself. If you don’t value yourself, why would he?
Men are hard-wired to chase after women, not the other way around. When you treat him like the prize and work hard to win him over, you’ve got it all backwards. If he feels like you roped him in, he’s going to feel trapped because it wasn’t his choice.
A man falls in love and commits to a woman when it’s his choice to chase after her and fight for her. He’s got to feel like he won the prize.
4. Be Vulnerable
A big part of falling love is your willingness to be vulnerable. For a guy to fall in love, he’s got to see the real you. It can be scary, but you have to be vulnerable enough to let him see who you really are.
Part of being vulnerable is being okay in your life with or without the relationship. You have to be secure enough and love yourself enough to still be happy even if the relationship ended.
If you are always acting out of fear of losing your guy, you are going to come off as desperate. Be comfortable with who you are and what you want.
If you have needs that aren’t being met, don’t be afraid to let your man know. If he doesn’t respect you, then he’s not the right guy for you anway.
5. Acknowledge And Appreciate Him
A man falls in love with a woman based on how he feels around her. At the end of the day, all a man really wants is to make you happy. He wants to feel like a super hero around you.
A man needs to feel that you love and appreciate him for who he is, with no agenda. If you see the things in him that he feels other people ignore, he’s going to feel connected to you.
When you recognize his best qualities and show your sincere appreciation, he won’t be able to help falling in love with you.
6. Care About Him
Take the time to ask your guy how his day was and actually listen to him. Let him talk and show him that you actually care about what he has to say.
A lot of women get caught up in the fantasy of having a boyfriend. They might not care that much about the guy they’re with, so long as they are with somebody and don’t have to be alone.
A man doesn’t want to feel like he’s just filling the boyfriend slot and could easily be replaced by any other guy with a pulse. He wants to feel that the woman he’s dating actually cares about him and wants to be with him.
If you’re just faking your way through the relationship to have a boyfriend, your guy isn’t going to feel connected to you.
7. Give Him Space
Men don’t fall in love the same way women do. They actually need space to feel more connected to you.
It seems counterintuitive to women, so they often make the mistake of smothering a guy when he really needs time on his own. But don’t take it personally. It’s just the way guys are wired.
For a man to fall in love, he needs to feel safe. He needs to know that he’s not going to lose his identity or his freedom.
If you freak out when he just needs to have some guy time and get in touch with his masculine side again, you’re going to make him feel like he’s losing his freedom.
A man will fall in love with a woman who understands that he just needs time to recharge and doesn’t get clingy. When he’s off spending time without you, that’s when he will understand and appreciate what he has with you.
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Great article!
Oh men you can continur to give love to.a guy who is not jnto you. Because if feelings. But also please widen your social xircle.
U knw a man shld alwayz first get attracted to you, believe me i’m a man and thre are a lot of grlz that shwed me everthing that can tell u hw smbdy loves u, i notcd everything bt as long as they ddnt attract me, they ddnt succeed winin me over…
Beautiful article! Thanks so much for sharing <3
Nice one.
I really like this.
same
I don’t think guys read this stuff then do what we need to keep us. They just do what suits them. What about what women need in a relationship? I’m sick of guys.
I agree with you 100% – its always about the guy! What makes them so special that they deserve all of this from us?
i was trying this kind of distance if whether really can work…i love him a lot i spend my time only this way….
You cannot control or manipulate people to fall in love. Many of us have done this naturally. Hasnt clicked. You also get people fall in love with drama addictions and allsorts. Stop creating this crap. Sometimea it happens other times it doesnt
true that!
Funny thing is, I’ve been doing all of this naturally for the male that I like but, he keeps distancing himself from me. I feel that maybe it’s because he is afraid of how far it may possibly go because we have a very deep connection, he just wants to take things how they come but, if I do that, how will I know when/if it’s the right time to commit into something more than this close friendship we have? I guess I just don’t understand.
You’ll know when he asks you. There is nothing you have to do, just be yourself. You can’t control it. Just let things happen naturally and if it doesn’t happen then it wasn’t meant to happen with this person.
I’ll try this but I think my man loves me and I love him…
You know what? I’m a man, and…………that was spot on! Thanks for writing this. When I saw the title I thought this was going to be a list of ways to manipulate men. But it wasn’t! If a woman I was interested in did all those things, it would work. She’d be a better, more developed person for it, and I’d become a better person too. Kudos to you.
Exactly. Spot on. I’m a guy. You have to be a prize. He gets scared when too much space. You have to “play” w/ space and it can almost always get him for expert in this aspect.
I’ve done evrything thts been listed but when i get over something hes done comes another dont know what to do anymore
Leave him. you should not get over what he’s done without him earning it. He does not deserve you and your forgiveness. he’s probably a boy in a man’s body.
Then dump him, obviously you are allowing him to do whatever he wants and all he has to say he’s sorry. Stop accepting the excuses and tell him straight on that your done with the excuses and your done with him, because if he was in love with you, he would respect you and if he keeps messing up then he is definitely not respecting you, therefore, the only choice you have is to dump him because he is not the one for you and to keep going with him and accepting his excuses will only bring you more excuses that you are allowing because you are not respecting yourself.
true that too x infinity for reals!
Learned a lot!