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How To Handle Hot And Cold Men

How To Handle Hot And Cold MenEvery woman is bound to come across a guy who runs hot and cold. The hot and cold men are the ones who get close to you, then pull away, then get close to you again, and then pull away again.

One week they are calling you and texting regularly, and it is great to be around them. They make you feel loved and adored, and you think everything is going great. The next week, they disappear and you feel completely rejected and alone.

So what is the deal with these guys? Are they just playing games? Every situation is going to be different depending on what is going on in your relationship. It is most likely that these guys are unsure if they want to be in the relationship. For some reason, they are being wishy washy and the bottom line is that they do not really know what they want.

In this situation, there is only one way that you should respond. Give them space! Most women do the complete opposite and that is a huge mistake. Calling these guys and demanding answers is only going to push them further away.

Reaching out and trying to fix things is only reinforcing the cold behavior. Giving these guys space is the best way to communicate that you are not okay with the hot and cold antics. If your man is not sure of the relationship, then you need to carry on with your own life. You do not have time to waste being tossed around by a guy who loves you one minute and ignores you the next. Date other guys and act like the hot commodity that you truly are.

When a man pulls away at one point in a relationship, he usually is looking for some freedom and space to just go and be a man and do what men do. This is pretty normal and nothing to really worry about. Men need space in order to grow closer to you and to take the relationship to a deeper level.

But when you are dealing with hot and cold men who constantly go back and forth, that is a different story. You need to hold your ground in this situation, and demand better for yourself. If he is messing with your emotions, then it is time to move on to find a man who will treat you better, because you deserve better.

Speak up and tell your man how his behavior is making you feel. Stay calm and try not to be confrontational. Tell him that you are looking for a more solid relationship with a man who does not have doubts. If he is doubting things, then you are not willing to wait around for him and are ready to move on. Let him know that you can handle the truth and give him a chance to explain himself.

It is important to back up your words with actions. If you decide to give him space, then do not contact him at all. If you tell him you do not want to wait around for him, then cut yourself off and go date other guys. It is important to give off the vibe that you are a hot commodity and your time is valuable. This will make him see that he could lose you if he does not get his act together.

If he comes around and starts shaping up, then great! If not, you did yourself a favor by cutting him loose, because he was only wasting your time and playing with your heart. You deserve to be treated with respect and demanding that for yourself is the best way to deal with hot and cold men.


  1. Guys’s perspective – I usually play “cold” when I’m mad at a woman. Say she flirts a lot with a guy who’s buffer than me or something that makes me feel insecure and I don’t want to seem needy and accuse her of being a flirt. So I’ll just ignore her or treat her like a nobody (I couldn’t treat her nicely when I’m mad even if i wanted to) until a) I cool down b) She realizes she’s pissed me off and tries to be nicer to me.
    I’m just hoping that you’ll notice that you’ve hurt me. Maybe I’m a bit jealous, but I never flirt with other girls in front of someone I like, so I expect the same behavior.

  2. Great article! Thank you so much! This helped me alot!!

  3. Hi

    How true. We women tend to focus on what men want and how to bring them closer to us. Big mistake (from experience), how about we have our own lives, show him u are happy with and without him. If he doesn’t know your value and worth, then amicably cut your losses and someone who will honor you will come around.
    Yes, it’s not easy but it’s possible.

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